Slanderous Gossip = Integrity Lost


I write this with a heavy heart this evening.  It has been something I have noticed the past week and a half and it is making my soul sad.  I have been known to get caught up in it, but I am taking a stand and removing myself from it fully because it is something that has made me physically ill this past week.  Yes you guessed it by the title…GOSSIP and TEARING EACH OTHER DOWN!  Why is it that we have come to this phase in our lives only to back pedal to elementary school behavior?  Do we as women really know the consequences (serious consequences) of gossip?  Lives changed, feelings hurt, relationships broken, and the worst of all a God who becomes so sad by watching it all.

I unfortunately have taken a huge step back after catching myself in hearing others gossip and realizing to myself that it is something I do NOT want to be a part of.  I have watched some stuff unfold over this past week and a half, and quite frankly I am shocked by the number of passive aggressive posts on Facebook and twitter.  To make things worse, I am shocked that some of the passive aggressive posts have used scripture.  Usually when one uses scripture, you want to use it with a whole heart and a tone of love.  Unfortunately these were not.  Another thing I have noticed are that most of these posts and passive aggressive comments are done by WOMEN OF GOD!!!  So this poses a question… Is it worth your integrity?

Scripture says in Leviticus 19:16 “Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people.  Do not stand idly by when your neighbor’s life is threatened.  I am the LORD.”  Now, if that doesn’t sound like God condemning gossip, I don’t know what does.  Lets see what God says about what gossip can do to others.  In proverbs 16:28 which we all know I have said before that Proverbs is the book of the Bible we all should live by, it says that “A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”  There are so many other examples that I can give where it states in the Bible that gossip is something that no Christian should be part of because of the fact it is so devastating!  Watching your words, how you use them, and the intention behind them is something we all as women of God need to work on.  By all means, I will NEVER say I am perfect, but what I have seen this past week has made me so disappointed and sad.  My integrity means EVERYTHING to me!  I am a Woman of God clothed with strength and dignity!  I am a leader to young women looking for their place in the world around them and I take that role seriously! I will be darned if my integrity is compromised!

In 1 Chronicles 29:17 it says that “I know, my God, that you examine our hearts and rejoice when you find integrity there.  You know I have done all this with good motives, and I have watched your people offer their gifts willingly and joyously.”   I want my Father in Heaven to rejoice when he examines my heart.  I want Him to see that my motives are good and that I love His people just as he loves me.  So in the end…. does Gossip look that enticing?  I don’t want to grieve God’s heart…. do you?

5 thoughts on “Slanderous Gossip = Integrity Lost

  1. Leigh

    Very thought provoking. Even though I try not to, I get caught up in it sometimes, I’d be a liar if I said otherwise. I’m sure every one of us has taken part in gossip and this post explains exactly how dangerous it really is. Thank you Carolyn ❤

  2. Joe

    Our human nature makes us crave for all the silly gossip out there. We need to rise above it and let our spirituality lead us in rebuking all the “behind the back chitchat”. Awesome blog, CB! Thanks!

  3. kelli fischer

    This is one of those “respectable” sins that we “christians” fall prey to all too often. How often has our gossip been disguised by the statement “I’m only telling you this so you’ll pray and so”. Here’s my litmus test before I speak I ask myself “would I say this if the person I’m speaking of were standing next to me” if the answer is no then let no unwholesome word come from my mouth but only those that will lift up and edify and that will give grace to those who hear…paraphasing found in Ephesians somewhere.

  4. Terry Bennett

    As I write this tears are in my eyes. Who are we to judge others? We are all sinners in one way or the other. Love you Carolyn!

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